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Dear Feminists, when did "yes" start to mean "potentially/maybe/definitely no?"

I found this meme while surfing around online, and I'm curious if anyone wants to offer up their take. The term "feminist" is one that is so polarizing it tends to cut right down the left-right divide, but this one has me wondering.

My take on this is below the image.

The rationale of people who defend the message this woman presents is that a woman isn't actually saying "yes" in certain instances, such as while under the influence of alcohol...Ok...

This logic reminds me of a quote from British author Paul Johnson (from his book Enemies of Socieity), emphasis is mine...

(I)t is essential to use words accurately and in good faith...beware of those who seek to win an argument at the expense of the language. For the fact that they do is proof positive that their argument is false, and proof presumptive that they know it is. A man who deliberately inflicts violence on the language will almost certainly inflict violence on human beings if he acquires the power. Those who treasure the meaning of words will treasure truth, and those who bend words to their purposes are very likely in pursuit of anti-social ones. The correct and honourable use of words is the first and natural credential of civilized status.

In that light, I think this girl's message is a bunch of crap. All my life so-called feminists have gone on and on about how "no means no" and "yes means yes." Now "no" still retains its very concrete meaning while "yes" gets to be some ambiguous...thing...that can now be a reflection of how a woman feels at any given time?

Basically, what I think is actually being said here is that "feminists" have now reserved the right to claim victim-hood as a way to save face or feel better about buyer's remorse after engaging in consensual sexual activities.

This may seem glib to some people, but I have personally seen the permanent and life-long devastation sexual abuse can bring upon women (or anyone at all) and am very sensitive to such matters. However, this is just too convenient, it brings a whole new meaning to "a woman scorned" and sex crimes should not be debased with such antics.

Women who do this should disclose this belief before dating a man, they'd no doubt find themselves permanently single lest their would-be partners find themselves victim to Johnson's prophecy.